How Setting Healthy Boundaries Can Help Your Focus

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Jessica Dore writes, “Healthy boundaries are like demarcations that separate our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors from the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of others.”

It is important to set boundaries. If you do not already have one, you are putting your happiness at risk. If you do not know what you want, people will give you what you do not want. What you want is not a “rigid boundary”, but a healthy one.

Jessica Dore says, “A rigid boundary is one where nothing gets in and nothing gets out.”

That is not what you want. You want a healthy boundary. A healthy boundary is one where good things get in and bad things get out. It is a boundary where positive thoughts get in and negative thoughts get out. It is a boundary where you separate your negative thoughts from your positive thoughts.

If you want your boundary to work, to protect you, to separate you from toxic people, you must take it seriously. You must not joke with it. If you do, other people will joke with it.

But do not make your boundaries too rigid. In her book Tarot for Change: Using the Cards for Self-care, Acceptance, and Growth, Jessica Dore writes, “Ideally what we want is a boundary that’s firm, visible from a mile away but not welcoming. There’s a door way through the wall, but the gatekeeper is discerning and has a zero-tolerance policy for nonsense.” She adds, “The person who presumably built the wall is ill at ease. While a proper boundary should give us a break from the need to always stand guard, a porous one keeps us incessantly scanning the horizon for incoming threats.”

If you are not happy with yourself, think about what you are bringing into your life.

4 Valuable Life Lessons From Tyler Perry

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We cannot control everything around us, but we can control ourselves. If we can control ourselves, then we can control everything within us. Do not worry about things you cannot control. Worry about yourself, your future, what you are doing. Worry about how you are going to nurture your seeds. The seeds of happiness. The seeds of joy. The seeds of love. The seeds of life. The seeds of becoming. If you can take care of them, if you can nurture your imagination, your future will take care of itself.

To live well, you must nurture yourself. And your life will get easier, according to Tyler Perry,

When you:

“Nurture your imagination with hard work, positive energy, ease, and self- encouragement.”- Tyler Perry, Higher is Waiting

If you do not encourage yourself, if you do not support yourself, no one is going to encourage you. If you want to suceed, be your own supporter.

“Life gets easier and happier when we let people be whoever they truly are. Stop expecting them to give you what they don’t have or don’t know how to give.”- Tyler Perry, Higher is Waiting

What you cannot give yourself, do not expect it from other people.

“When you know your worth, when you know your value, your life changes and you change lives.”- Tyler Perry, Higher is Waiting

When you know who you are, you know what you are worth. As a result, you do not settle for less than you are worth.

Make a holy commitment to your beautiful self that you will only water the seeds of love, kindness, and self-worth, and you’ll let feelings of unworthiness wither on the vine.”- Tyler Perry, Higher is Waiting

Because love is life. Love is peace.

Because kindness is connection. Kindness is life.

Because self-worth is everything. Self-worth is you. Your self-worth is your life worth.

It is your inner life. It is your power. It is your inner energy.

If you do not have it, it is never to late to grow it.

If you are committed to it, you can grow it. You can develop it.

If you are willing to face yourself, you can grow your self-worth.