"No suffering is self-caused. Nothing caused itself. If another is not self-made, how could suffering be caused by another."- Nagarjuna

You get back what you put into something. Know that nothing happens by accident. If you want to get something, if you really want it, you must do the work. 
No matter how good you are, nothing is going to happen without your push. Push, yes, you must. And do not let fear kick your back. And it will if you let it.

Life is yours to live. You can't go around expecting something to happen in your life. Whatever you want, you have got to go after it. Because "nothing caused itself."