Life is simple. Life is not difficult. We are making things difficult for ourselves.
If we can just listen to NATURE, we won’t be in any trouble, we won’t suffer, we won’t fight against ourselves. We are in trouble because we try to change the things that we cannot change. We are in trouble because we are trying to make other people live our lives. We want them to look like us, to behave the way we behave, to do what we asked them to do.
Life does not require us to be perfect. Life does not require us to love people conditionally. Life does not require us to spend a short time with our love ones. Life does not require us to choose a career that we don’t like. Life does not require us to hate ourselves and others. Life does not require us to make things difficult for ourselves. Life does not require us to make simple things hard for ourselves.
So, what does life require that we do? To answer this question, let me quote H. Jackson Brown, Jr. According to H. Jackson Brown, Jr., “Life doesn’t require that we be the best, only that we try our best.” He is right.
But the problem with that quote is that we now live in a very fast world. We want to be perfect. Our managers want us to be perfect. There is no room for us to make mistakes anymore. We are constantly under pressure- work pressure, family pressure, developmental pressure, social pressure, and psychological pressure.
So how can we live a peaceful life?
We can live a peaceful life if we want to. It is simple. It starts with the choices that you make. Life does not require you to be the best in your organization. Life requires that you do your best, be your best, live your best, and celebrate your best. That is it!
Don’t do the things that you don’t like. Let them fit your values. Because whatever you do that are against your values, you are not going to be comfortable doing it. And if you are not comfortable doing your work, why are you doing it?
Remember this: don’t try to be the best, but try to do your best work every day.
Self-imposed limitations are the things we tell yourselves that we cannot do. Self-imposed limitations can cause you to stay where you are, because your mind has accepted them as real. If you allow your self-imposed limitations to become your reality, they will prevent you from becoming who you really are. They will stop you from reaching your goal. They will prevent you from doing the things you were created to do.
The problem with self-imposed limitations is, when you tell yourself what you cannot do, you can rarely do more than your limits.
Self-imposed limitations:
Are artificial
They are not real. They are self-created
Subjective- they are what you tell yourself
They can be changed
They underestimate you and others
They can keep you in your comfort zone if you don’t act
They will take time to change, so be patient.
If you want to be successful, you must first get rid of those self-imposed limitations that are holding you back. Self-imposed limitations are not real; they are man-made limitations.
Let us look at some common ones and how to get rid of them.
Perfectionism. Perfectionism prevents people from living their lives. No one is perfect. If you want to succeed, strive for excellence, not perfection. In their book, Awakening the Workplace, Rhonda Victoor writes, “When we succumb to perfectionism or procrastination (both of which are lying to ourselves) we set ourselves up for a gloriously average career and perpetual disappointment.”
Procrastination. If you want to achieve success in life, learn not to put things off until tomorrow. You will not achieve greatness if you keep putting things off until tomorrow. Whatever is due today, do it today, not tomorrow. According to Rhonda Victoor, “Every time we procrastinate on important tasks, we lie to ourselves. We make other things, like “busy work” or being perfect, more important than getting the job done.”
Blaming Others. If you want to grow, you must hold yourself accountable for your own mess. Don’t blame other people for your mess, blame yourself. When you blame other people for your mistakes or failures, you are giving your power away. If you want to learn from your mistakes, don’t shift them to the next guy, own them. That is the only way to learn from mistakes. Winston Churchill said, “The price of greatness is responsibility.”
Making excuses. Excuses will not bring success to you. They will fill your storage room with failures. Don’t hide behind excuses. If you don’t know what you want out of your life, reach out to people for help. In his book, The Magic of Thinking Big, Dr. David J. Schwartz wrote, “You will discover that excusitis explains the difference between the person who is going places and the fellow who is barely holding his own.” If you want to grow, if you want to be greater, stop making excuses.
How To Remove Your Self-imposed Limitations
It is going to take time. You are going to be very patient. You can remove them by:
Changing your mindset. Everything starts in your mind. If you want to get rid of these self-imposed limitations, you start by changing your mindset about yourself. Change how you evaluate yourself. Don’t compare yourself to others. Believe in yourself. If you don’t like what is happening to you now, change it. If you don’t like your life, change it. If you don’t like your career, change it. To change your world, you have to change how you think about your world.
Take action. The only existing medication to cure self-imposed limitations is action. Action cures everything. If you want to get results that will change your life, take action. “If you have a problem, act now, or pay later.”- Anonymous
Do what you fear. Whatever it is that you are afraid of, embrace it today. You have to overcome your fears to succeed. If you keep running away from your fear, your success will keep running away from you. You must face your fears if you want to succeed.
Commit yourself to what you want. Don’t let setbacks frustrate you. Let feelings of frustration move you to change your life. Prepare to achieve what you want. Commit yourself to your goal. If you prepare, you will win.
Your self-imposed limitations are fake, not real. Burst them today!
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