Why People Resist Being Changed

Life requires change. If you are not changing, you are dying slowly. If you want to make change possible, according to Peter Bregman, ‘

‘No matter your position or power in the relationship, asking permission is the key first move to becoming an ally with the person you’re wanting to help change.’

Change is hard. It is not easy. But if you want to make it happen, don’t do it to people.

‘Don’t be in a rush for someone to change.’ People need time to do things, change included. If you want them to change, you must give them time to decide.

‘Remember, people don’t resist change; they resist being changed.’

How To Get Better Results

‘Focus on the inputs, and the outputs will follow.’– John W. Foreman

If you want to make a difference in your life, if you really want to change things, do not focus on what you are going to get. Instead, focus your energy on getting the process right.

It does not matter what we want to achieve in our lives. If you don’t get the process right, it is not going to work.

The question is not what you are doing, but how are you doing it? Are you just doing it because people are pushing to change your life?

Or are you doing it because you really want to create a better life for yourself?

Why are you in the game you are playing? What are you doing to be better than your yesterday’s self?

Success is about the process. When the process is right, growth will follow. If you focus on what you want, you will get what you want.

If you focus on what you don’t want, you will get what you do not want.

What you really want will come from what you are doing, not what you are thinking. You can think all you like. If you want to change your thoughts from just mere thoughts to something greater than yourself, you must focus on what you are trying to achieve in your life.

Process matters. It is not what you do that matters. It is how you do it that is going to give you what you want. If you want success, you must ‘focus on the inputs.’