“Worrying and obsessing keep us so tangled on our heads we can’t solve our problems. Whenever we become attached in these ways to someone or something, we become detached from ourselves.”- Melody Beattie

“We don’t have to take other people’s behaviors as reflections of our self-worth.”– Melody Beattie

“We don’t have to take rejection as a reflection of our self-worth.“- Melody Beattie

“We don’t have to take things so personally. We take things to heart that we no business taking to heart.”- Melody Beattie

“We don’t have to take little things personally either…. Usually things have far less to do with us than we think.”– Melody Beattie

“If people don’t want to be with us or act healthy, it is not a reflection on our self-worth. It reflects on their present circumstances.”- Melody Beattie

“Stop looking for happiness in other people. Our source of happiness and well-being is not inside others; it’s inside us. Learn to center ourselves in ourselves.”- Melody Beattie

“We can learn to depend on ourselves. Maybe other people haven’t been there for us, but we can start being their for us.”- Melody Beattie

“Real power comes from feeling our feelings, not from ignoring them. Real strength comes, not from pretending to be strong all the time, but from acknowledging our weaknesses and vulnerabilities…”- Melody Beattie

“Go as far as you can see, and by the time you get there, you’ll be able to see farther.”- Melody Beattie

“Self-care is an attitude of mutual respect. It means learning to live our lives responsibly. It means allowing others to live their lives as they choose, as long as they don’t interfere with our decisions to live as we choose.”- Melody Beattie

“Giving ourselves what we need does not not only mean giving presents to ourselves; it means doing what is necessary to live responsibly- not an excessively responsible or an irresponsible existence.”- Melody Beattie

“Love cannot exist without the dimension of justice. Love must also have compassion which means to bear with or to suffer with a person.”- Melody Beattie

“There is nothing in the world like going where we want to go, getting what we want, solving a problem, or doing something we always wanted to do.”- Melody Beattie

“Goals cure boredom.”- Melody Beattie