Tag: Positive Actions

How To Get Comfortable With What You Are Avoiding In Your Life

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Leadership, Management, Personal Development, Workplace Learning
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We have all messed up in the past. That is okay. You are not alone in your world. You are not the only person going through what you are going through. That is life. Whatever it is that you are going through in your life, do not avoid it. Get to know it. Get comfortable with it.

Whatever it is that you are going through in your business, don’t avoid it. Get to understand it. Get closer to the issue.

If you want to solve a problem, you don’t avoid it; you face it. Whatever it is that you are facing right now, it is better to face it than to avoid it. If leave it, it will get bigger. If you don’t do something about it, it will get bigger. Take action. Do something about it. It is yours to make better. Do not make it worse by running away from it. Get to work.

What is keeping you up at night? What is taking your attention away from other things that you are doing? Is it your life? Is it your business? Is it your customer? Is it your behavior? Is it your kids? Whatever it is, you can do something about it. You can even start with yourself. Yes, start with you. Because if you don’t know how you are contributing to your problem, you won’t know where to start. If you don’t know what you are not doing well, you will find it hard to fix it, to change it.

Instead of avoiding your life, ask yourself, ‘How can I make my life better?’ And you can make it better.

Start by looking at what you are doing that is working. Then ask yourself, ‘Why is it working? What are we doing right? How can I take it to the next level?’ Then move on to what is not working. Ask yourself, ‘Why is this thing not working? What are we missing? Don’t worry about who did what. Talk about how to get things back on track. Ask, ‘How can we make it better.’ Making something better is better than blaming other people for what happened.

Blaming other people doesn’t make things better. It drives people away from making things better.

Remember, you don’t know everything. If you are stuck, don’t remain stuck. Talk to people who are better than you are. Keep your pride. Check your ego at the door. Because if you think you know everything, then you don’t need other people’s help. You don’t need your own help. Why is that? Because you don’t know what you are doing. You don’t even know what you do not know. And you are not willing to ask for help.

Don’t go there! Because no one knows everything. If you think you know-it-all, then you don’t really know what you are doing.

To lead your life forward, whatever it is that is keeping you up at night, stop avoiding it. Face it.

Watch Your Mouth!

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Leadership, Management, Personal Development, Workplace Learning
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Watch your mouth! Words are powerful. If you do not have anything good to say about people, then don’t say anything.

It is better to say nothing than to say negative words about people. Because negative words are just negative words. They are energy suckers. They kill dreams. They are life stealers. They don’t make people feel good about themselves. They make people feel that they are not good enough.

But that is not the case. The point is that people are just people. They are good enough. They just want to live their lives. So if you don’t want people to treat you like a stranger, then treat them as human beings. That is life.

People don’t care about your job. They don’t care about your car. They don’t care about where you live. But they do care about how you treat people, especially people who are still trying to get their lives together. People don’t care about what you say, but they care about how you say it, where you say it, and why you say it.

If you want to lift people up, then don’t say negative things about them. Instead, say things that will encourage them to be more, do more, and live more. Inspire them. Encourage them. Be honest with people. If you see something that you do not like, don’t judge them. Ask them.

As human beings, we want to be supported. We want to be lifted up. We want to be alive. That is what we want. Nothing more, nothing less.

Don’t hide behind anything. Just be you. Be real with yourself. And be real with others. Because being real is a word. When you are real to yourself, you are speaking to the people around you. You are saying that your life matters, that you love who you are. You are saying to others that you are not going to treat them differently. That you are going to treat them the way you treat yourself.

When you empower people with your words, you are saying to them that their lives matter to you, that you will do whatever you can to make their dreams possible. When you say positive things about people, you are saying to other people that positive things matter to you, too.

If you want to invite peace into your life, you can do that by speaking words that will bring peace to you and other people. You can it.