Don’t Dwell On What Went Wrong

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Things will always go wrong in life. You cannot control everything in life. There are things that you can control, and there are things you cannot control. Control what you can control. Don’t worry about what you cannot control. If you focus on what you cannot control, that is the beginning of unhappiness. If you want to be happy, focus on what you can control.

Look, if you have everything under your belt, you are playing it too safe. When you are playing a safe game, nothing significant will go wrong. But when you are playing a rough and intelligent game, something will go wrong. When you are trying to change your life, it won’t be easy. When you are getting into a new job, a new career, a new city, it won’t be easy. When you are trying to be creative, it won’t be easy. When you are trying to live your life, in your own way, it won’t be easy. It is not always going to be easy. But if you play your game well, you can reduce the stress associated with moving forward. As Mario Andretti put it, “If you have everything under control, you are not moving fast enough.” When you are doing creative things, you have no control over them. You just want to explore.

Dennis Waitley said, “Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energy on moving forward toward finding the answer.” Whatever you are going through in life, looking forward for solutions is the best answer. If you continue to dwell on the past, you can’t find the right solution to your problem.

In moving forward, focus on how you are going to improve your life, not living in the past. If you continue to live in the past, you will always find it hard to enjoy the moment. Look forward, not backward. Discipline yourself for greatness. Jim Rohn said, “It is the small discipline that leads to great accomplishments.” Instead of beating yourself up, focus on doing the things that will take you closer to your dreams. The little things matter. If you do the little things well, the big things will take care of themselves. In addition to that, you must program yourself for success. Don’t live in yesterday’s world. Live in today’s world. Think success. Plan for success. Preparation is the key to success. If you want to succeed, you must prepare yourself to succeed. Confucius, the great philosopher, said, “Success depends on our previous preparations, and without such preparations there is sure to be failure.” If you want to succeed, you must be ready to work hard. Success depends on hard work.

If you don’t live in yesterday, if you don’t focus on what is not working for you, if you focus on the positive things and how to make things better for you, you will come back again. You will come back again!

The Two Most Common Mistakes In Life

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Nothing in life is perfect. Mistakes happen when we are trying to master our crafts. Mistakes happen when we are trying to be who we really are. Mistakes happen when we are trying to create the life we want for ourselves and others. The question is: “Can we live without making mistakes?”

Mistakes happen when we try to make things perfect. Can we make things perfect? NO. If you want to enjoy what you are doing, don’t strive for perfection, strive for progress. Strive for improvement. Improvement is better than perfection. If you are looking for perfection, you are just daydreaming. Keep dreaming!

There are two mistakes in life:

Your mistakes.

Other people’s mistakes.

It does not really matter who is responsible. It matters that you pay attention to what happened, how you can learn from the mistakes, and how to reduce it next time. If you are responsible for a mistake or mistakes, don’t blame anyone, own it. If you start blaming people, you will never learn from your mistakes. If you are not responsible for the mistake or mistakes, do the same thing- learn from them. Don’t go around blaming people for their mistakes. Pay attention to what they did wrong and how they are going to fix it or reduce it.

We are human beings. Human beings make mistakes. We all make mistakes. But don’t let your mistakes stop you from moving forward. Don’t let your mistakes stop you from pursuing your dreams. Don’t let your mistakes stop you from finishing what you started. Don’t let your mistakes be the obstacles standing in your way. Don’t let your mistakes make you give up on your dreams. Mistakes can change your life forever if you have the courage to learn from them. Mistakes can change your life forever if you are humble enough to learn from them.

You will make mistakes when you try to live your life, because we are not perfect. You will make mistakes when you try to make something new, something creative. You will make mistakes when you are starting something new. You will make mistakes when you are trying to undo the old, boring stuff you have been doing. You cannot avoid it. The best way to manage mistakes is to embrace them. Let them be part of your daily life. Don’t make it a habit of making reckless mistakes. That is not what I am talking about here. I am talking about making a mistake in a productive way. Yes, you can make a mistake in a productive way. It is productive if you learn from it. It is not productive if you learn nothing from it.

The way to handle mistakes:

According to J. Lyman MacINNIS, “The way to handle a mistake is to be big enough to admit it, wise enough to learn from it, and smart enough to fix it.”

When you make mistakes, admit it, learn from it, fix it if you can, and move on.