Month: November 2024

When To Leave A Toxic Place

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

‘We are only ready to leave our rockpool when we can swim in positive currrents pulling us towards what we do want. If we follow negative currents pushing us away from what we don’t want, we’ll be a jellyfish with no control over where to end up.’- Stuart Holah and Adrian Webster

Follow what you want. Follow what will make you happy in your life. If you are in a place that is not supporting you, if you are in a place that is not making you happy, that is not contributing to your life, that is even stealing from your life, if you love yourself, if you want to grow, you must leave.

The question is, ‘When is it right to leave a toxic place? It depends on what you want to achieve in your life. It also depends on what is going on in your life. If you are financially stable, then don’t waste your time. You need to run!

If you are not financially stable, if the job is paying you well, meaning you can take care of your family, then you must plan your exit carefully.

Do not rush your way out. If it is really bad that you can’t do it anymore, then you must consult with yourself, with your soul.

Whatever you are going after in your life, try to make it your own. That is because no place is perfect. If you think you can make where you are better, why not try?

I am not say that you should endure abuse from anybody. That is not what I am saying here. Please don’t get me wrong. I am for you. I am not for a toxic place, a toxic boss.

But always try to work things out. If you can work it out, why not? That is better than running around.

But if you have a bigger, better plan, then you can make your move. But do it with respect, if you can.

Because you never know what is going to happen in the future. You never know what life has in store for you. You never know where God is going to position you.

If a place is unbearable for you, don’t destroy the bridge before you leave.

Whether you are leaving a place or not, people are always your best bet. If you can connect with them, connect with them. If you cannot connect with them, then move on.

Why You Don’t Do What You Say You Are Going To Do

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

‘When we endure hardship, it builds our mental strength and toughness. When we face difficult challenges, whether we succeed or not each time, we are nonetheless changed by the experience. If we get up again, we become stronger.’– Stuart Holah and Adrian Webster

Things will never go according to plan. But that is not enough for you to just kick your goals away. It is not enough to brush your plan under the rug. It is not enough to say to yourself that you are going to take a different path.

That is not the way to go. One of the best ways to get anything done in life is to face whatever it is that is trying to distract us.

You can do more for yourself if you are not distracted. You can do what you say you are going to do if you are not distracted, if you are not after what other people are doing.

Look, things will always happen, whether you want to deal with them or not.

So what are you going to do? Are you going to sit back and watch other people getting things done? That is not for you. That is not even part of your plan.

You are not living a directionless life. You are not living a purposeless life.

You are living a purposeful life, a life that has something to do with what you are living for. If you do not have anything to live for, that is a purposeless life. That is an empty life.

That is not for you. If you don’t want something like that to happen to you in the future, you must get to work. You must renew your vow. You must position yourself for greatness. You must be there to help yourself achieve what you want.

If not you, no one will. Remember, no focus, no success. If you want to be successful in your life, you must focus on what really matters to you.

If it is not important, don’t do it. If it is important, then you must do whatever is within your power to make it happen. The question is, ‘Will you do it?’