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Is Blaming Others For Our Actions A Way Forward Or Backward?

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth, Spirituality
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Why do we blame people for our actions? Is it the right thing to do? What do we do to stop blaming people for our actions?

When we blame people for our actions, we are not helping ourselves. We are hurting ourselves. We are giving our strengths away. We are stopping ourselves from learning new things.

In his book The Four Virtues of a Leader, Eric Kaufmann writes, “When you blame, you assign authority to the environment and stop focusing on the power of creating and shaping circumstances.” You don’t focus on your learning process when you blame others for your actions.

When you blame, you are giving your power away. You don’t take responsibility when you blame others. You don’t learn from your mistakes when you blame others. You don’t grow when you blame others. You are not helping others when you blame them for your own actions.

When you blame, you are not empowering yourself. But when you take responsibility for your actions, you are empowering yourself.

Robert Kiyosaki says, “When people are lame, they love to blame.” No matter what you are going through, don’t blame anyone for it. Take responsibility for your own actions. If you blame, you will continue to make the same mistakes.

If you want to grow, if you want to transform your life, do not blame someone else for your actions. Don,t blame yourself. Don’t blame your teacher. Don’t blame your boss for your mess. Don’t blame your government for your financial condition. Don’t blame your coworkers for your mess. Always take responsibility for your actions.

It is hard to take responsibility for our actions. But when we do, we are better of than not taking full responsibility. When you make a mistake, instead of blaming yourself or others for it, take full responsibility for your mistake.

People who take responsibility for their actions are more successful than those who blame others for their actions. Why is that? Because they learn from their mistakes. You cannot move forward if you do not take full responsibility for your actions. In her book Emotional Fitness: Discovering our Natural Healing Power, Janice Berger writes, “Our life is transformed when we can stop blaming.”

If you want to expand your life, stop blaming.

Are you ready to stop blaming others for your actions?

If You Want To Know Who You Really Are, Don’t Fool Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth, Spirituality, Success, Workplace Learning Report
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Richard Feynman said, “The first principle is that you must not fool yourself and you are the easiest person to fool.”

“Self- awareness is the key to a successful life.” If you don’t know yourself, if you are not honest with yourself, if you keep deceiving yourself, if you keep running away from reality, you will NEVER know yourself. You will keep fooling yourself.

No one expects life to be easy. But life is much more interesting if you have the courage to face life.

No matter what you are going through, go through it. Don’t lie to yourself. Don’t run away from your problems. They are your problems to fix. No one can handle your problems, but you.

Pick your fight wisely. Don’t waste your time, your energy, your resources on things you are not good at. Do what you are good at, and do it very well.

“Success comes from doing what you are good at.”

“Failure comes from doing what you are not good at.”

Don’t do something because people want you to do it. Don’t do something because your parents or your friends want you to do it.

Do something because you want to do it. Do it because it is the right thing to do for yourself. For your growth. For your development. For your career. For your relationships. For your health. For your happiness. For your spiritual being. Just do it!

Don’t allow people to make critical decisions for you. Make your decisions yourself, and take responsibility for making them.

Don’t pretend to be busy when you are not really doing anything. If you do that, you are wasting your time.

Remember that if you waste your time, you are wasting your life. Don’t waste your life. Don’t lie to yourself. Be honest with yourself.

If you want to be successful in life, be honest with yourself. Don’t fool yourself.

Are you ready to stop fooling yourself?