Month: December 2019

This Is Why Comparing Yourself To Others Is Not Helping You

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development
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When we compare ourselves to others, we are not helping ourselves, we are destroying ourselves.

Ask yourself: Why am I comparing myself to other people? Are we created the same? Are we pursuing the same goals in life?

If you compare yourself to others, you are making yourself inferior to them. You are telling yourself that they are better than you. You are telling yourself that they worth more than you do. You are telling yourself that you do not deserve anything in life. More important, you are planting a bad seed in your mind- the seed of inferiority.

Remember, only you can make yourself feel inferior. Stop making yourself feel inferior. You can do that by changing your thoughts about yourself.

The only way to stop comparing yourself to others is to see yourself as a great person, as a unique person.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

Yes, only you can do that. It is within your power. You have the power to control your mind. If you can control your mind, you can control what and how you see and think about yourself.

Mark Twain said, “Comparison is the death of joy.”

Stop comparing yourself to others. They have their own issues to solve. You are unique. You are you. You are not like anyone and you can never become like anyone. They can never become you.

4 Powerful Leadership Quotes That Will Help You Become A Great Leader

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Leadership
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What is leadership? Why do we need great leaders?

According to John Maxwell, leadership expert, “A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.”

Here is why we need great leaders:

“An organization without a great leader is like a tree without roots.”– E. Bright

An organization without a great leader is going to collapse. It is going to die very fast. Because there is no leader to lead. There is no plan, no vision, no mission. If you want your organization to survive today’s hostile business environment, elect a great leader- a leader who knows the way, shows the way, and goes the way.

“As a leader, if you can’t develop yourself, you can’t develop your people.”– E. Bright

Life is all about growth. If you are not growing as a leader, you are dying as a leader. You are as good as the people around you. If you surround yourself with people who are better than you are, you will continue to grow. But if you surround yourself with “yes-yes” people, you will continue to decline. John Maxwell says, “You can learn only if others are ahead of you.” If you want to be the best in your industry, play and learn with the best.

“‘Yelling’ is a tool of an ineffective leader.”– E. Bright

If you want people to follow you to the gate of hell, stop yelling at them. People want to follow a leader.

“Encouragement is a tool of an effective leader.”– E. Bright

Great leaders use encouragement to get the job done. They use encouragement to motivate their people to get things done. If you encourage your people to be their best, they will stand by you in good and tough times. Encourage them to grow, to bring their best to work, and they will do just that.

Great leaders don’t discourage, they encourage themselves and their people.