Why Is It Difficult To Practice Forgiveness?
“Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it forgoes revenge, and dare forgive an injury.”- Edwin Hubbell Chapin, preacher
Forgiveness is freedom. When you forgive who hurt you, you are free. The other person is free, too.
Forgiveness is healing. When you forgive who hurt you, you are healing from the pain. You are healing from the past. You are healing into the present.
But one thing is clear: forgiveness is a hard thing to do, but if you can do it, you will be free forever. If you find yourself struggling to forgive someone, you are not alone. We are all in it together.
People find it difficult to forgive because they can’t let go of the feeling of resentment. They can’t forget the past. They think they are letting the person go unpunished.
Forgiveness does not mean that you are letting the person who hurt you go unpunished. It means you are letting yourself off the pain of the past. It means you are freeing yourself from bondage. It means you are now a mature person, meaning you are bigger than the person who hurt you.
Forgiveness is your choice. It is a choice between staying in the past or moving forward. It is a choice between letting go or continue to live in pain. It is a choice between being a victim or a victor. Forgiveness takes time. It is a process. Don’t rush into it. Take your time to forgive and forget.
Forgiveness is letting go of the past. If you let go of the past, if you forget the past, then you can focus on the moment. But if you keep living in the past, if you keep dwelling on what happened yesterday, you will miss what is happening right now. Don’t let resentment steal your happiness away from you. Don’t let resentment steal your destiny away from you. Resentment is toxic. It is worse than cancer. Resentment allows us to continually live in pain. Resentment is dangerous to your health and well-being, so get rid of it.
Reinhold Niebuhr, theologian, said, “Forgiveness is the final form of love.” You cannot love someone unless you have forgiven him or her. Forgiveness is hard, but if you can do it, you are free forever. Enjoy your freedom!