Tag: Leadership

Don’t Dwell On What Went Wrong

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Things will always go wrong in life. You cannot control everything in life. There are things that you can control, and there are things you cannot control. Control what you can control. Don’t worry about what you cannot control. If you focus on what you cannot control, that is the beginning of unhappiness. If you want to be happy, focus on what you can control.

Look, if you have everything under your belt, you are playing it too safe. When you are playing a safe game, nothing significant will go wrong. But when you are playing a rough and intelligent game, something will go wrong. When you are trying to change your life, it won’t be easy. When you are getting into a new job, a new career, a new city, it won’t be easy. When you are trying to be creative, it won’t be easy. When you are trying to live your life, in your own way, it won’t be easy. It is not always going to be easy. But if you play your game well, you can reduce the stress associated with moving forward. As Mario Andretti put it, “If you have everything under control, you are not moving fast enough.” When you are doing creative things, you have no control over them. You just want to explore.

Dennis Waitley said, “Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energy on moving forward toward finding the answer.” Whatever you are going through in life, looking forward for solutions is the best answer. If you continue to dwell on the past, you can’t find the right solution to your problem.

In moving forward, focus on how you are going to improve your life, not living in the past. If you continue to live in the past, you will always find it hard to enjoy the moment. Look forward, not backward. Discipline yourself for greatness. Jim Rohn said, “It is the small discipline that leads to great accomplishments.” Instead of beating yourself up, focus on doing the things that will take you closer to your dreams. The little things matter. If you do the little things well, the big things will take care of themselves. In addition to that, you must program yourself for success. Don’t live in yesterday’s world. Live in today’s world. Think success. Plan for success. Preparation is the key to success. If you want to succeed, you must prepare yourself to succeed. Confucius, the great philosopher, said, “Success depends on our previous preparations, and without such preparations there is sure to be failure.” If you want to succeed, you must be ready to work hard. Success depends on hard work.

If you don’t live in yesterday, if you don’t focus on what is not working for you, if you focus on the positive things and how to make things better for you, you will come back again. You will come back again!

What do people really want?

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What do people really want? How do people want to be treated? How do you treat people? How do you treat yourself?

Simple but difficult questions for lots of people to answer. Why?

Because we are human beings with all kinds of assumptions. We think we know want people really want. We think everyone wants the same thing. We think we can meet the needs of everyone with a one-size-fits-all approach.

The reality is, “we don’t really know what people want.” If you want to know what people really want and need, don’t assume, ask them. Just ask them. And they will tell you exactly what they want.

As human beings. we crave for one thing. We want to be respected. This is a huge thing for lots of people to do, including business executives. People want to be respected, they want to be heard, and they want to be appreciated.

Theodore Roosevelt said, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” If you are a business owner, respect your people, listen to your people, appreciate your people, let them know that their efforts are appreciated. You don’t need a consultant to tell you how to respect your people. No, you don’t.

Respect is a two-way business. If you respect people, they will respect you back. If you don’t respect them, they will disown you before you even know it.

People want respect more than you think. Give it to them.