Tag: Health and well-being

Healing Is…

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What does healing mean to you? Does it mean pain to you? Does it mean suffering to you?

When something happen to us, we try to understand everything before we commit ourselves to healing. Wrong, Wrong, Wrong. Instead of trying to understand everything before you commit yourself to self-healing, accept what happened, and find the next way forward.

Things will always happen to us. There is no way we can live our lives without running into problems. Some we can control; others we cannot control.

Control what you can control. Forget what you cannot control, and move on. Make sure you learn your lessons.

Don’t try to control your healing. Let your healing take care of itself. If you try to control your healing, you are preventing your healing from taking place. Gary Hensel posted a quote on my Twitter, which reads, “Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.”

The problem we have with healing ourselves is that we try to control the healing process. If you try to control your healing, you are doing yourself more harm than good. Don’t try to control it.

When you are hurt,

  • Don’t try to control your own healing. You will not succeed in doing that. The more you try to control everything, the more you are harming yourself.
  • Accept the healing by not trying to be the master controller of your own healing
  • Have an open mind to your own healing.
  • Forgive yourself for what you are going through. Forgiveness is a two-way street.
  • Forgive others for what you are going through. When you forgive others, others will forgive you.
  • Don’t try to understand what happened to you. Accept what happened to you. Don’t beat yourself up. Learn from it, and keep going.

Healing is a process. It takes time to heal. Be patient. If you want to heal yourself, accept healing for yourself, and keep moving forward.

True Happiness Starts With You

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Leo Tolstoy famously said, “If you want to be happy, be.” Your happiness is in you. You can choose to be happy or unhappy. It is your choice. Happiness is a choice you make on a daily basis.

You cannot buy happiness. It is not for sale. If you want to be happy, do not find it in your material possessions, look for it in your mind. The happiness you are looking for is in your mind- in your thoughts.

You can make yourself happy by changing your thoughts. If you focus on negative things, for sure, you are going to be unhappy. But if you focus on happy things, on happy moments in your life, on happy moments in your work, if you pay attention to the good things that happening around you, you will be in a much more better mood.

That is, if you want to be happy, control what you focus on. If you focus on negative things, you will receive more negative things. If you focus on positive things, more positive things will come to you. Whether you believe it or not, positive feelings are better than negative feelings.

Democritus said, “Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul.” Yes, happiness dwells in the soul. Because happiness is a state of mind. The good news is, “If you want to be happy, clean up your mind of negative things, and fill it with positive things. Positive things is the best medicine for the soul. Positive thoughts heal the soul. Do more of it!