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4 Ways To Create Your Own Happiness

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We all want to be happy. Happiness is not what you search for, it is what you give. If you want to be happy, make people happy. Happiness is like a butterfly. You can’t chase happiness. You cannot run past happiness. It is always in front of you. If you run after happiness, you will never be happy.

You can be a happy person if you want to be happy. Happiness is a choice. Make it today. Be happy today. Create your happiness today, not tomorrow, not next week, not next year. The great Albert Einstein said, “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”

Here are four steps you can follow to create your own happiness:

Be yourself. This is the best gift you can give yourself. You are who you are. You cannot be anyone, and no one can be like you. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Be yourself. Don’t accept anything but the best for yourself. Abraham Maslow said, “If you plan of being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life.” If you want to be happy, don’t accept anything that will make you unhappy for the rest of your life. Go for things that will bring out the happiness in you. And you will be happy.

Accept yourself. If you want to be happy, you MUST first accept yourself. You can only find happiness if you accept yourself- your strengths, your weaknesses, your gifts and your talents. You cannot find happiness if you are not in peace with your inner self. You cannot be unhappy inside and be happy outside. George Orwell said, “Happiness can exist only in acceptance.” Accept yourself, and you will be happy.

Be a positive thinker. When you think in a positive way, you are attracting positive energy to yourself. You are attracting positive things into your life. It helps you to see things in positive ways. It helps you to see light where others see darkness. Happiness is the way you think about yourself and your situation. Marcus Aurelius said, “Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is within yourself, in your way of thinking.” if you want to attract negative things to yourself, think in negative ways. If you want to attract positive things to yourself, think in positive ways. If you want to be happy, really happy, change the way you think- from negative to positive.

Value yourself. if you want to be happy, learn to respect yourself, regardless of where you are, where you live, and where you work. Happiness depends on nothing, but you. Only you can make yourself happy. No one can do that for you. As Ayn Rand put it, “Learn to value yourself, which means: to fight for your happiness.” You cannot be happy if you don’t value yourself. You need to value yourself if you are to live a happy life.

Happiness is personal. If you want to be happy, focus on the things that can help you find happiness. Don’t waste your time on things that will steal your happiness away. If you do that, you will be a happy person.

Being Alone Vs. Being Lonely

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Being alone is not the same thing as being lonely. You often hear people say something like, “I want to be alone.” Vs. “I am lonely.” They sound different, and they are really different.

What does it mean to be alone? And, what does it mean to be lonely?

You can choose to be alone. You can also choose to be lonely. It is your choice.

When people are alone, it does not mean they are lonely. It means they want time for themselves. They want to be alone because they want to do creative things. They want to think. They want to read. They want to meditate. They want to reach out to their inner creative being. Being alone allows people to reach out to their inner selves. So, when you are alone, you are dealing with your inner being- your true being. In order to be alone, you must FIRST master the art and science of being alone. Being alone is not for the small-minded people.

Being alone is not for the small-minded people because it requires people to practice being independent. If you are not mature, if you are not independent, if you are not self-confident, being alone will be difficult to master. For example, if you write for a living, you need alone time to dig deeper into your creative world. Being alone is a good thing, not a bad thing. It allows you to dig deeper into your TRUE life. It creates the space for you to discover your true self, to evaluate yourself, and to practice self-reflection. It is when you are alone that you discover who you really are, what you want to accomplish, what is important to you, and what makes you really happy. Those are some benefits of being alone, but not lonely.

Loneliness, on the other hand, means a different thing entirely. If you feel lonely, it means you feel disconnected from the things around you. It means you want to live inside yourself. You don’t want to be connected with anything. One thing with loneliness is that, you can be with people, you can be in a crowd, or you can be in a market place without connecting to any of them. That is the sad part of being lonely. But you can change it. You can change from being a loner to being a social being.

If you find yourself moving away from people, you don’t want to see people, you feel disconnected from reality, don’t move further away from people. Find a way or ways to move closer to people. Remember, people love you. They don’t dislike you. They want to meet you. But they cannot meet you when you are running away from them. Focus on people, but don’t forget about yourself. People will move closer to you if you make the first move. Show your love, your BIG love for people, for things around you, and for the environment. They will love you back. If you want love, give love to people. If you want happiness, make people happy. If you want care, care for people. If you want closeness, be close to people. That is the way life works.

Finally, if you find yourself lonely, reach out to people you know. People who can lift you up, not those that will make things worse for you. When you are down, you need a lifter. If you are lonely, care. Care for yourself, for people, and for the environment. If you do, you will be a better person.

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