“Define your terms, you will permit me again to say, or we shall never understand one another.“- Voltaire, poet
“Define your terms.” Tell people how to treat you. You own your life. If you don’t have the courage to tell people how to treat you, they will abuse you. Do not settle for less. And do not be afraid to ask for what you want.
Dr. Phil says, “We teach people how to treat us.” We do it every day. We shut up instead of speaking up. You can make a choice today. To do that, you must first know what you want, your values, and where you are going. If not, it won’t work. And they will continue to tell us how to live our lives. Do you want that for yourself? I don’t.
“To be nobody- but yourself- in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else- means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”- e.e. cummings, poet
Let us face it, my friends. Who is perfect? Are you perfect? Is the world a perfect place? If we really want to be honest with ourselves, the answer is NO. So if nothing is perfect, then why are we fighting for it?
I am not perfect. I make all kinds of mistakes everyday. But I am okay with that. They don’t define me. And they can’t define me. Because you are who you say you are. If you say you are perfect, regardless of where you are, what is happening around you, within you, to you, you are perfect. That is what you should be telling yourself every day.
“If you say you are perfect, regardless of where you are, what is happening around you, within you, to you, you are perfect.”
When you wake up in the morning, celebrate your imperfections. Don’t worry yourself about them. Just celebrate the fact that you are imperfect. If you are completely perfect, if you have nothing to worry about, the world will be a boring place for you to live in. Perfection is boring!
If you want to grow in your life, don’t try to be perfect, try to always do your best. If you focus on being perfect, you will not enjoy anything in life, not even yourself. To overcome perfectionism, you must believe in yourself. Don’t try to be who you are not. It won’t work. And don’t let negative people talk you into ignoring your life, your purpose, your growth. In the words of e.e. Cummings, “Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” When you believe in yourself, everything will work out well for you, not against you.
The real question is: Do you have the courage to believe in yourself? e.e. Cummings said, “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” To grow up in your life, you must first overcome yourself. If you have not done that, you can’t overcome the world.
Do not let perfectionism stop you from talking to me. We will fight it together. We are all in this together. You are not alone. Whatever you want to do, go for it. The more you do, the better for you. Ralph Waldo Emerson told us many years ago that “all life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.”
That is how we should approach our lives. If you can see life as it really is, if you can see things as they really are, you can achieve anything in your life. Again, the question is: Are you ready to love yourself as you really are? Are you ready to let go of who you think you are supposed to be? Are you ready to ignore other people’s opinions? Are you ready to stand up for yourself? Are you ready to stop creating who you are not? Are you ready to let go of negative friends? Are you ready to connect with yourself? If you are ready, the world is ready.