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In the words of Ferdinand Foch, “The will to conquer is the first condition of victory.” To conquer other people, you must first conquer yourself. You must develop the courage, the power to face yourself. Find the courage to be your true self. Don’t pretend to be who you are not. Don’t hide yourself. Give yourself the power to pursue your dreams, to defeat your fears, and to conquer yourself.
When you are faced with a problem, believe in yourself, face it, and move on. Don’t cry. Don’t complain. The Scripture says, “All things are possible to him who believes.” Just keep learning to be what you really are. According to Henri- Frederic Amiel, “Learn to … be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not.” From now on, resign from treating yourself badly. Resign from pretending to be who you are not. Because life is not about pretending; life is about loving. Life is about sharing. Life is about doing. If you are not learning to be what you are, you are learning to be who you are not. That is scary!
William James famously said, ‘Since you are like no other being ever created since the beginning of time, you are incomparable.”Yes, you are incomparable. Because there is no one like you. God created you to love yourself, not to compare yourself to other people.
Love yourself. If you don’t have the courage to love yourself, who do you think is going to love you? Nobody. Don’t spend your precious time looking for that person who will do everything for you, who will make you happy, who will love you. There is none out there.
Don’t look for that person who will be with you when things are bad, be with yourself. Don’t look for people to blame when things are not going your way, blame yourself.
Look, my friends, before you reach out to people for help, reach out to yourself first. Because everything you are looking for is already inside of you. Whatever you are looking for, you already have. All you need to do is to just believe in yourself. Believe that you are in charge of your life. Believe that you are not going to waste your life trying to please people.
You are not here to please people; you are here to create your own life. You are here to set your own standards. You are not here to live by other people’s standards. And to do that, you must detach yourself from the crowd. Don’t follow the crowd. Do your own thing. Follow your own path. Do not let people define your life for you. Define it yourself. Be comfortable with yourself. Because if you are not comfortable with yourself, you can’t define your purpose in life.
So to be really successful in life, you must define success in your own way. Because success means different things to different people. Whatever it is that you are pursuing, you must take charge of it. If not, you will lose it.