Familiarity

Two Brown Trees
Pixel/johannes Plenio

Many people are okay with familiarity. There is less anxiety in familiarity. There is no stress in doing the same thing over and over again. We love what is familiar. We like to go to the same place for a cup of coffee, we like to take the same road to work, we like to talk to the same people at work, and we like to keep our desk clean at work. All of those things are good. We love it. Our brain loves it.

“Nothing is wonderful when you get used to it.”- E. W. Howe

The question is, are you striving for familiarity or striving for growth? If you are striving for growth, it is time for you re-think, reflect, and evaluate your plan. There is no growth in familiarity. There is no growth in sameness, meaning doing the same thing over and over again. If you are comfortable with doing the same thing over and over again, you don’t have to change what you are currently doing. But if you love to grow, to challenge yourself, to take risks, to learn new things, to stretch yourself, it is time to move forward.

Familiarity is good. It allows people to experiment, to explore, to be comfortable, and to be safe. In contrast, familiarity makes people feel too comfortable, too safe, and makes people avoid risks. If you don’t want to stay in familiarity camp, make sure you are doing different things every day. Don’t stick with the same task. Try different things, and it will make your job and your life easier.

Getting There Vs. Staying There

Woman Jumping Wearing Green Backpack
Pixel/Sebastian Voortman

It is not who gets there first. It is who stays there. It is easier to get to where you want to be in life than to remain there. Success is fluid. Success is dynamic. Success is in motion. Success is not static. You have to keep chasing it. It is a process, not a destination.

The most successful people are scared of one thing: “They don’t want to be poor again.”

That is why they do everything in their power to maintain their wealth. You can do the same, too.

It is easier to get there than to stay there. If you want to stay successful, you must change your strategy. You must change your mindset. If you want to get different results, stop doing the same old things that got you to where you are. Albert Einstein famously said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Lots of people fail to stay where they are because they lost focus. They forget how they got to where they are. They forget who they are, what they care about, and what is important to them. Instead of focusing on personal and professional development, they got carried away by what other people are doing. What they are doing is no longer interesting to them. They think their friends are doing better than they are. They think their friends are ahead of them.

I have good news for you: it does not matter who got there first. What really matters is how you got there. Life is all about getting there versus staying there. It depends on you.