Category: personal development

Being Alone Vs. Being Lonely

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Being alone is not the same thing as being lonely. You often hear people say something like, “I want to be alone.” Vs. “I am lonely.” They sound different, and they are really different.

What does it mean to be alone? And, what does it mean to be lonely?

You can choose to be alone. You can also choose to be lonely. It is your choice.

When people are alone, it does not mean they are lonely. It means they want time for themselves. They want to be alone because they want to do creative things. They want to think. They want to read. They want to meditate. They want to reach out to their inner creative being. Being alone allows people to reach out to their inner selves. So, when you are alone, you are dealing with your inner being- your true being. In order to be alone, you must FIRST master the art and science of being alone. Being alone is not for the small-minded people.

Being alone is not for the small-minded people because it requires people to practice being independent. If you are not mature, if you are not independent, if you are not self-confident, being alone will be difficult to master. For example, if you write for a living, you need alone time to dig deeper into your creative world. Being alone is a good thing, not a bad thing. It allows you to dig deeper into your TRUE life. It creates the space for you to discover your true self, to evaluate yourself, and to practice self-reflection. It is when you are alone that you discover who you really are, what you want to accomplish, what is important to you, and what makes you really happy. Those are some benefits of being alone, but not lonely.

Loneliness, on the other hand, means a different thing entirely. If you feel lonely, it means you feel disconnected from the things around you. It means you want to live inside yourself. You don’t want to be connected with anything. One thing with loneliness is that, you can be with people, you can be in a crowd, or you can be in a market place without connecting to any of them. That is the sad part of being lonely. But you can change it. You can change from being a loner to being a social being.

If you find yourself moving away from people, you don’t want to see people, you feel disconnected from reality, don’t move further away from people. Find a way or ways to move closer to people. Remember, people love you. They don’t dislike you. They want to meet you. But they cannot meet you when you are running away from them. Focus on people, but don’t forget about yourself. People will move closer to you if you make the first move. Show your love, your BIG love for people, for things around you, and for the environment. They will love you back. If you want love, give love to people. If you want happiness, make people happy. If you want care, care for people. If you want closeness, be close to people. That is the way life works.

Finally, if you find yourself lonely, reach out to people you know. People who can lift you up, not those that will make things worse for you. When you are down, you need a lifter. If you are lonely, care. Care for yourself, for people, and for the environment. If you do, you will be a better person.

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Don’t Dwell On What Went Wrong

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Things will always go wrong in life. You cannot control everything in life. There are things that you can control, and there are things you cannot control. Control what you can control. Don’t worry about what you cannot control. If you focus on what you cannot control, that is the beginning of unhappiness. If you want to be happy, focus on what you can control.

Look, if you have everything under your belt, you are playing it too safe. When you are playing a safe game, nothing significant will go wrong. But when you are playing a rough and intelligent game, something will go wrong. When you are trying to change your life, it won’t be easy. When you are getting into a new job, a new career, a new city, it won’t be easy. When you are trying to be creative, it won’t be easy. When you are trying to live your life, in your own way, it won’t be easy. It is not always going to be easy. But if you play your game well, you can reduce the stress associated with moving forward. As Mario Andretti put it, “If you have everything under control, you are not moving fast enough.” When you are doing creative things, you have no control over them. You just want to explore.

Dennis Waitley said, “Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energy on moving forward toward finding the answer.” Whatever you are going through in life, looking forward for solutions is the best answer. If you continue to dwell on the past, you can’t find the right solution to your problem.

In moving forward, focus on how you are going to improve your life, not living in the past. If you continue to live in the past, you will always find it hard to enjoy the moment. Look forward, not backward. Discipline yourself for greatness. Jim Rohn said, “It is the small discipline that leads to great accomplishments.” Instead of beating yourself up, focus on doing the things that will take you closer to your dreams. The little things matter. If you do the little things well, the big things will take care of themselves. In addition to that, you must program yourself for success. Don’t live in yesterday’s world. Live in today’s world. Think success. Plan for success. Preparation is the key to success. If you want to succeed, you must prepare yourself to succeed. Confucius, the great philosopher, said, “Success depends on our previous preparations, and without such preparations there is sure to be failure.” If you want to succeed, you must be ready to work hard. Success depends on hard work.

If you don’t live in yesterday, if you don’t focus on what is not working for you, if you focus on the positive things and how to make things better for you, you will come back again. You will come back again!